A Transcend Series Post from Big Chris McCombs

“I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I do know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve.”. - Albert Schweitzer

Hey there, it’s Big Chris…

Here’s a post about one of the MOST important things you can do not only in your business, but also in your life... it’s another one of my “Transcend Series” posts… the others have been some of the most popular posts I’ve done to date, so I figure I’ll keep busting’ em’ out for ya… plus their good for the soul and serve as great reminders of what’s truly important

Getting lots of new clients is great, but if you don’t have the Big Picture stuff like this dialed in… all the new clients in the world will probably leave you feeling pretty empty and broke inside, no matter how big your bank account is.

PLUS… if you do what I talk about in this one, you’ll probably end up making MUCH more money.

You can see the first two post in this series at the followings two links BTW in case you haven’t read them yet:

Transcend Part One – This One’s Personal (The post that started it all)

Transcend Part Two – The Tao of Mistakes

Now, if you’ll remember from the first post, I talked about the importance of…

1. Having a clear vision of your destination that you are passionate about reaching and involves helping others

2. Feeling good about your goals coming true and taking massive “right” action to reach them… don’t just meditate on this stuff

3. Enjoying the journey

4. Not concerning yourself with what others think about you

5. Embracing your pain and your flaws

6. NO MATTER HOW HARD IT MAY BE SOMETIMES …  Do your best to treat others the way you would want to be treated

7. Being yourself – Don’t just be a friggin’ number or another “me too” person or business owner

8. Being Cool with having different aspects to your personality

9. Embracing your mistakes

10. Transcending – We all need to evolve, to be better, to improve

And the one we’re gonna talk about today…

11. Helping others to Transcend

I’m jumping straight to the end of the list cuz I feel it’s a SUPER important one… no… make that SUPER DUPER important… hard to beat “SUPER DUPER important” these days

So… without further ado…

Helping Others to Transcend – If you wanna be truly happy and really succeed in life… I believe it’s not enough to work on your own Transcending… You need to help others to transcend as well

Now, if you’re in the fitness industry, then YOU ARE IN A PERFECT POSITION TO DO THIS ( In fact, if you’re a reader of this blog, there’s a good chance you do it to some extent or another already)

Helping another person to be the best person they can be… to be healthier, happier and more confident….

Help them to slay their personal demons.. even if those demons are complacency, missed workouts and late night food binges.. whatever it may be…

The BIG KEY HERE IS

If you wanna be a master of transcending your own funkalicious junk… then help others transcend theirs.

Plain and friggin’ simple.

THIS is one of the big keys to success and happiness … and I truly believe it to be one of the most important things in life.

Help others to evolve… to get what they want in life… to live their dreams and passions and become the best people they can become,  and your life will kick ass.

EVEN if helping others evolve and transcend is only in the area of health and fitness… this is such a HUGE area of life that it  can have a positive spill-over effect into EVERY OTHER AREA.

Anytime you can help someone better themselves… help them learn something profound about themselves… give them tools to better themselves… you yourself become better

There’s a quote in my buddy John Spencer Ellis’s movie ‘The Compass” by dude by the name of Charlie Gay that goes SOMETHING like this…

“if I buffer your mirror….
if I buffer you…..
if I buffer your brilliance….
so it doesn’t stay on the pillow at dawn…
I get to see myself more clearly in your beautiful reflection”

To me, this means…

“It’s when we polish others that we ourselves shine the most”

Now, I’ll admit, I’m a selfish SOB by nature… so this goes against how I’ve spent most of my life and against what feels normal for me.

I remember at my sixth grade party for our football team when we came in first place, I couldn’t even enjoy my two pieces of pizza because I was so determined to finish mine first so I had rights to the last piece in the box I spotted sittin’ over on the table…

…We all got two pieces, but I saw ONE lone piece left, and I figured if I finished mine first, I’d have rights to that final piece… so I scarfed mine down with a fervour of a pack of coyote’s chowing down on some poor little old ladies poor poodle.

Totally not in the present moment.

Totally focused on what I DIDN’T have.

Total disregard for my team mates.

That’s my first memory of being in this game all for myself.

Now that’s fine and dandy and many of us are wired this way..

But the only problem is that after living like this for so many years I ended up pretty miserable and couldn’t really understand why

I just felt depleted and empty and broke inside… and I couldn’t understand why I wasn’t happy and growing as a human being.

The reason was is that I had life backwards… NEVER thinking of others, never wanting to help others, and absolutely zero thoughts of helping others to become better, healthier and happier human beings themselves

Now, I’m still a pretty self-obsessed dude, I get a kick out of it these days actually… being stuck with one of these male ego’s can be pretty trippy sometimes

But fortunately I’ve learned a thing or two over my forty years and one is that “To Be Happy … You GOTTA Help Others To be Happy”

Wanna get into shape? Help other get into shape… even if it’s just a little advice here and there. ( Of course you still gotta train and eat right)

Wanna rise above your problems? Help others rise above theirs

Most of the words Great Religions speak about this Truth.

And if you know anything about 12 Step Programs … which were all inspired by AA … you might be aware of the 12th Step which states…

“Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs”

Help others to heal, and you heal yourself

When Bill Wilson co-founder of AA was trying to get sober himself, back in the mid 1930′s, he went beating the bushes looking for drunks he could help to get sober… but after six months he went to his wife Lois and told her how this helping other people thing wasn’t working, because not one of the drunks he tried to help was able to get sober

And that’s when she pointed out that it WAS working, because while he was out doin’ his best to help others to get sober … for the first time he himself was actually able to stay sober for something like six months … all because he was out doin’ his damnedest to help others to conquer the same demons he himself was battling.

Help others to shift their paradigm… to operate from a new frame… to have new tools to use to carve away at the sculpture of their ideal life… help them battle their demons and slay their dragons… and your life will kick ass…. like I said, even if those demons and dragons are missed workouts, complacency and late night food binge.

Helping them with this fitness and nutrition stuff can help them in almost EVERY are of their life.

They can live longer, have more confidence, energy and a greater sense of inner peace.

Plus, they’ll often be a good influence on those around them, helping to motivate others to health and fitness.

Like Zig Ziglar said… “If you help enough people get what they want, you will get what you want”

Focus on helping others t transcend, and wealth, freedom and happiness are likely to follow.

Some people are naturals at it… if you’re one of the end, I commend you.

Some of us have to force it first.

What’s cool is, after a while, you end up discovering there’s no better way to live… and it’ll become natural to you.

I’d LOVE to hear your comments below.